PCS Tips
PCS season is here again!
In case you’re not familiar with military life and are wondering what PCS means, it stands for permanent change of station. It’s the time of year when many military families pack up their lives to relocate to their new duty station, aka the place they’ll call home for the next 2-3 years.
If you are in the preparation phase of a PCS or already in the midst of one, you’ve come to the right place. It’s easy to get overwhelmed with all the details of moving to a new duty station, because there are so many moving pieces. There are lots of resources that address the logistical side of moving everything you own to another place, so I’ll leave that to the experts.
Moving is never easy, but when you're a military family, it can feel like an even bigger challenge. Whether you're moving across the country or across the world, it can be tough to leave behind friends, family, and familiar surroundings. It’s just as important to take care of yourself and your family emotionally as it is physically.
After PCSing cross country twice in less than a year, I am elated to be staying put this summer. It means I have capacity to actually write this blog instead of focusing on living out these principles in the heat of the moment.
Here are a few reminders that helped me tremendously when I was in your shoes.
Knowing that I’m not alone. There are literally thousands of other families going through the same exact thing we are. The beauty of this is when we get where we’re going, someone else will be able to relate both to me and my kid.
Focusing on the present. We’re often so focused on the future that we forget to stay in the present. Whether you’re on day 1 of prep, in the middle of traveling, or already settling into your new home, try taking things one day at a time.
Prioritizing self-care is crucial. Moving can be stressful and exhausting, so it's important to prioritize self-care and family time. Make time to relax, exercise, and do things that bring you joy. And don't forget things like taking vitamins, drinking water and getting nutritious food. These things impact our mental health as much as they do our physical health.
Saying goodbye is a process, and it's okay to feel a mix of emotions. Be authentic, express your gratitude, and cherish the memories and relationships you've formed. Saying goodbye well allows for closure and sets the stage for new connections and experiences in your next destination. Here are a few ways you might do this:
Include your kids and spouse in the discussion. Find out what they’re going to miss the most about this duty station
Make of list of places and people you want to see before you leave
Plan a farewell gathering/meal
Put them on the calendar
Write a note (or a text) to the people you’re going to miss the most and encourage your kids to do the same
This list is nowhere near exhaustive, just a few things that helped me during our PCS seasons. One of my all time favorite parts about the military community is seeing us come together to help other people navigate the challenges and joys of this lifestyle. I would love to hear what has helped you maintain sanity during these stressful times. Comment and share your tips. Another spouse might need to hear it today.