Book Recommendation: Attached

Attachment styles play a significant role in how we connect with others and shape various types of relationships—whether romantic, friendships, or professional interactions with colleagues and peers. Our attachment style develops in childhood and we carry it into our later relationships. Our attachments impact how we response to intimacy and love, trust and commitment. There is value in learning our own attachment style and our significant others style. Sometimes these styles are the same, sometimes (more often) they are different which can create some challenging dynamics to navigate.

The good news is, we can learn to develop healthier attachments and thus learn how to grow together in relationships.

There are 3 main types of attachment styles — secure, anxious and avoidant. If you want to learn more about these styles and how they impact your relationships, Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller has a good book for you: “Attached.” They walk you through each attachment style to help you best identify your main style. They also discuss how various matching of different styles create different challenges and how to navigate when two insecure styles (anxious and avoidant) are in relationship together.

I recommend this book because understanding your attachment style can significantly not only improve your relationships, but increase personal growth as well.