What's your attachment style?
Secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganized — your style shapes how you text, fight, and make up. Twelve questions tell you which way you lean.
12 statements. Answer honestly, not aspirationally.
Rate how much each one sounds like you in close relationships — romantic, family, or friends. You get your result on the last tap.
Why attachment styles matter
Attachment styles come from attachment theory, developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth and later extended to adult relationships. Your style is the strategy you learned for staying connected to the people who mattered — and it runs in the background of every close relationship you have now.
Knowing your lean explains specific things: why a slow reply can wreck your afternoon, why you exit conversations that get emotional, why the same fight keeps happening. Once you can see the pattern, you can interrupt it. For the full picture, read our guide to the four attachment styles.
I built Swell because understanding your own patterns shouldn't require years of guesswork. A quiz like this one is where it starts — one honest look at how you operate. Swell takes it the rest of the way: a full map of how you're wired, and a coach that uses it every day.
Common questions
What are the four attachment styles?
Secure, anxious (preoccupied), avoidant (dismissive), and disorganized (fearful-avoidant). They describe how you respond to closeness and distance in relationships — patterns set early and carried into adulthood.
Is this quiz a diagnosis?
No. It reads your pattern across 12 questions and tells you which style your answers lean toward. Styles are tendencies, not categories you are locked into — and this quiz is not a clinical instrument.
Can my attachment style change?
Yes. Styles shift with consistent relationships, deliberate practice, and in some cases therapy. Research on "earned security" shows people move toward secure over time when they work at it.
Do I need to give my email to get my result?
No. Your result shows immediately after the last question. Nothing is saved and nothing is sent to you.
How is this different from the quiz inside the Swell app?
This free quiz reads one pattern: attachment. Swell's in-app identity quiz builds your full archetype — 63 traits scored across 6 positions — and updates it as you use the app.